Are you and your partner rarely having sex? Do you feel detached and distant and craving a change? If so, we may have a solution! Something as simple as changing the way you look at sex could be the remedy that both you and your partner need! Read on and we’ll elaborate further…
1 – Recognising the Health Benefits of Sex
It’s perfectly normal for couples to go through highs and lows in their sex life, especially when you have been together for a long time. In which case, sex can often feel like a chore – which can lead to feelings of guilt. However, if you focus on the amazing health benefits of regular sexual intercourse, it may make it feel less like a chore and more like an essential part of your weekly self-care routine:
- Sex is not only a pleasurable act; it also offers a plethora of health benefits for both our physical and emotional well-being.
- Regular sexual activity has been linked to improved cardiovascular health, reduced stress levels, strengthened immune system, increased intimacy and bonding, and a huge boost in your overall mood.
- By understanding and appreciating these health benefits, you can start viewing sex as an essential part of your daily or weekly health routine, rather than a mere chore.
2 – Prioritising Sexual Intimacy
The longer you go without having sex, the less you feel reliant on it. This often leads to couples getting too comfortable with the idea of not having sex, which can open the way for many other underlying issues:
- In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it’s easy for sexual intimacy to take a backseat. However, prioritising it can strengthen your connection with your partner and help you both feel more fulfilled.
- Make a conscious effort to set aside dedicated time for intimacy. Treat it as a priority, just like you would with other aspects of your physical and mental health.
- Setting aside designated time for sex doesn’t have to sap the fun out of it. Yes, spontaneity is important, but it isn’t everything.
- By shifting your perspective and actively making space for sexual intimacy, you can begin to rekindle the passion and desire within your relationship. The reality is: the more sex you have the more sex you’ll want.
- And remember! Not every sex session has to be a steamy hour-long joyride. In fact, often the best sexual encounters are over in minutes – just make sure that if you’re going to have a quickie, both of your needs are met.
Do you know why you and your partner have not been having as much sex lately? Have you sat down to discuss the situation? Because your partner may be struggling with something they are anxious to talk about – in which case you need to create an environment that encourages open communication and understanding:
- Open and honest communication is crucial when addressing the issue of a sexless relationship with your partner.
- Talk openly about your desires, concerns, and expectations. Encourage your partner to do the same.
- Understand that each person’s sexual needs and desires may differ. By actively listening and being understanding, you can find a middle ground that works for both of you.
If you have been having infrequent sex it could also be due to feelings of stagnation and “same old same old”:
- Use the opportunity to explore new avenues of pleasure together. Introduce sex toys, such as male masturbators (also referred to as masturbateur homme in French), experiment with different techniques, or try new positions.
- By embracing novelty and variety, you can reignite the excitement and passion within your sexual relationship.
- Remember, it’s all about mutual consent and finding what brings pleasure to both you and your partner.
5 – Seeking Professional Help
If you have been stuck in a sexless relationship for some time and you are struggling to find a resolution between you both, seeking professional help is a completely viable (and shameless) option to try:
- Couples therapy or sex therapy can provide a safe space to discuss deeper issues, address any emotional barriers, and offer guidance on reconnecting intimately.
- A qualified therapist can help you and your partner navigate these challenges and find strategies that work specifically for your relationship.
If you and your partner have not been having as much sex as you desire, then it’s time to switch up your perspective. Educate yourselves on the many mental, emotional, and physical health benefits that regular sex can bring and remember that not every sexual encounter has to be a 40-minute session. In fact, some of the healthiest and most successful couples have mastered the art of the quickie!
In any case, we hope you’ve found this article helpful and wish you the very best of luck with ironing out these kinks (pun intended) in your sexual relationship.